tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post6729056788736463584..comments2010-10-22T07:34:00.973-07:00Comments on In Between Life and Love: We're just matesKatiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03400875784153427496noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post-75575939180533958242010-10-22T07:34:00.973-07:002010-10-22T07:34:00.973-07:00This is an extremely interesting topic for me. the...This is an extremely interesting topic for me. the Boyfriend & I constantly debate this question: I say yes, he says no. I found your discussion on 20SB.net and thought I'd take a stab at my own post on this topic. You should check it out.<br /><br />-RB<br />http://justaddwaterlife.blogspot.comWannaBmammahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07065541636479728448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post-27594837803796940092010-10-08T00:15:36.454-07:002010-10-08T00:15:36.454-07:00Thanks Ms. Manda. Sad to hear, but yeah, this is s...Thanks Ms. Manda. Sad to hear, but yeah, this is similar to so many people's stories that I've heard, hence why I came to such a conclusion!Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400875784153427496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post-34082189311641536562010-10-08T00:14:26.766-07:002010-10-08T00:14:26.766-07:00I think you misinterpreted what I meant, Plum.. of...I think you misinterpreted what I meant, Plum.. of course you can still be friends with someone of the opposite sex, even if you have considered whether or not they would be a good partner. What I meant was, the better the friend they are, the more likely it is to cross your mind at some stage the possibility of them being more than just a friend. And that's when it gets complicated, i.e. if those feelings develop, etc.<br /><br />And of course guys aren't just your friends because they can't get anything else from you. What I meant is, it's a whole lot easier to be friends with someone of the opposite sex when you're taken, as the potential for any developing romance is eliminated.<br /><br />I don't think it's inevitable that two single friends will end up being involved with each other, but I do think it's inevitable that some point in time, one or both parties will investigate whether there's any potential for something further. Whether that means they hook up and agree it's not a good idea, or whether one is up for it and another isn't, that's a different story. But it definitely results in them no longer ever being considered 'just friends.'<br /><br />But thanks for the comments, I really appreciate people reading my stuff :-)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400875784153427496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post-83768305497785060772010-10-08T00:06:56.641-07:002010-10-08T00:06:56.641-07:00I completely agree. I love my best friend (Or love...I completely agree. I love my best friend (Or love of my life) because neither of us admitted we had feelings. We were best friends/lovers for 4ish years. One night he tried to talk about "our future" and I just couldn't and things changed. <br /><br />We are no longer friends. And honestly I don't have any male friends that we haven't tried to date. I think it's very very true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post-10462416985247940332010-10-07T17:06:32.410-07:002010-10-07T17:06:32.410-07:00i think guys and girls can be friends if they have...i think guys and girls can be friends if they have common interests and if both parties are also at least acquaintances with their significant others. i have guys i consider friends that i see in group settings, etc. <br /><br />however, when i've been single, all the guy "friends" i had were interested in me and our "friendship" did not work out.Christine Wanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08728216520302409470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9092701109178277394.post-53442021278556593232010-10-07T13:40:19.268-07:002010-10-07T13:40:19.268-07:00Your definition of "friends" seems to be...Your definition of "friends" seems to be really strict! If either of the people involved <i>ever</i> looks at the other and contemplates whether or not they'd make a good mate, they're not "just friends" anymore? That's what it seems like you're saying. Which is fine, if that's the way you see it.<br /><br />I have a lot of guy friends. I'm married, so there is no potential for anything more than friendship from me. Does that mean they're not "just friends" with me, simply because they don't have a choice in the matter? One of these friends I've had since second grade, and I guess I would have no way of knowing if <i>he</i> were into <i>me</i>, but our friendship has been platonic for the last two decades regardless.<br /><br />Basically, I disagree. Though I do think it's reasonable for two friends to be interested in being more than friends, it certainly isn't inevitable.Plumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17085621853946021379noreply@blogger.com